What do men like in lovers. What mistresses do men like? What is it like to be the mistress of a married man psychology

Questions of conquering the opposite sex have always been and will be relevant. What tricks women just do not go for in order to attract, win and keep a particular man. This happens to everyone with varying degrees of success. What is the secret? There are actually a lot of them, we bring to your attention an express instruction "How to become an ideal lover".

It all starts with a special relationship...

What is the most important thing for a man in a woman? Appearance? By no means! How many beauties meet old age alone or suffer in their youth from the absence of that very, only one in their lives. A man will at least stay for a long time next to the woman with whom he is comfortable and interested. You will never find the answer to the question: "How to become an ideal lover?" - if you do not learn to understand men. To do this, it is enough to listen to your partner and try to let everything you hear through yourself. Learn to feel like a man too. Nothing will work without this. Guess his mood: sometimes it is necessary to support, in another situation it will be enough just to remain silent, but show your interest. When a relationship is just starting, learn to change your behavior strategies. And one more piece of advice - the ideal woman has no problems. You can ask a man for help and advice, but constantly complaining in vain and loading him with your problems is by no means worth it. On the contrary, you need to be more positive and calmer - always demonstrate the joy of meetings and the absence of any troubles in your own life.

How to become the perfect lover in bed?

Intimacy is a big part of a relationship. It’s worth starting with yourself - even if appearance is not the main thing, you should not forget about grooming. You should also definitely purchase several sets of erotic lingerie and some accessories. But with preparation appearance it is important not to overdo it with love games: it is unlikely that the partner will like it if during the foreplay he constantly clings to jewelry or you are shackled by uncomfortable underwear, in this situation, all desire can disappear. When it comes to sex, all the advice of an ideal lover comes down to looseness and a willingness to try new things. It’s not a shame to be able to do nothing, the situation will be saved by the desire to try new positions with a partner, types of caresses, and maybe even some toys for adults.

I want to be perfect in everything!

The best lover should share the interests of her chosen one, but do not forget about her own initiative. Arrange unusual, try to give a man such impressions and memories that he had not previously had with any woman. And so it is worth doing in all areas, the answer to the question of how to become an ideal lover is to be better than all the surrounding women in everything. If meetings at least occasionally take place on your territory, be sure to maintain comfort and cleanliness in the apartment. Learn how to cook deliciously or at least regularly offer your partner drinks according to the time of day and season. Take care of your chosen one in everything, starting with the smallest details, and he will definitely appreciate it.

With betrayal, everything is more or less clear and known: for men, this concept in relation to “hookup”, even multiple, does not exist. But, as for the look at the mistresses, then you need to understand. In fact, there are different types of mistresses in the minds of men.

pay girl

The nature of this type of lovers: shy, hardworking, due to these qualities, a little boring, easily blushes, ashamed to show any discontent and her true desires. In the evenings, he reads brochures with titles like "How to Find Your Happiness." He is afraid of someone else's opinion about his person and therefore tries to hide the appearance of a more or less random man in his house, even from neighbors.

Life circumstances: usually divorced and has a child, whom she sends to her mother or girlfriend during meetings.

Attitude towards sex: the enslavement of this type of mistress knows no bounds, and practically nothing can be done about it. What is sexy lingerie or does not know at all, or, ashamed, diligently bypasses the shelves with it in stores. Afraid of profanity, especially in bed. On oral sex agrees only under pain of parting.

Summary: a bland, tasteless dish that can no longer be improved by any seasonings. As safe as it is boring. "On lack of fish, - as they say, - and cancer is a fish": it will do, as long as there are no other options.

caring mommy

Character: stands firmly on its feet in this life, economic, caring, undemanding. Once every five years, he can ask for money for a food processor. Always interested in the health of her lover, his children and wife. Can give them gifts on behalf of an unknown saleswoman from a store opposite work. She always tidied up for the arrival of her lover, ironed and starched bed linen, a glass of water helpfully stands on the bedside table.
Sex with her is predictable and monotonous, her favorite position is missionary. During sex, she may ask to nail or fix a faucet.

Summary: this type of mistress is as predictable as a digital clock. You don’t have to expect any stunning impressions from communicating with such people, but they are always available when you want to “eat”. A find for those whose wife does not know how to cook. This option is not suitable for everyone, and may require additional adventures on the side.

Business

Character: unlike the previous type of lovers, it never occurs to her to feed her lover. She may offer to split the costs into rented apartment for meetings. This woman knows her own worth, can take an interest in affairs at work and give worthwhile advice. She avoids excessive sentimentality, is punctual, independent. Always plans a schedule in advance, of which he considers his lover a part.

Life circumstances: between 30 and 40, married, everything is there. Has a husband, maybe even a lover, children, an apartment, a car. No, only normally adjusted sexual life in marriage: the husband is either a workaholic businessman, or aged, or has problems with potency.

In sex, he does not like long foreplays and romantic sighs, takes the initiative in bed in his own hands, loves the pose from above and knows how to cheer up during intimacy. Immediately after making love, he continues to plan further affairs and quickly ends the date.

Summary: for an amateur who prefers a calculating machine to quiet, gentle joys. The option is not only safe, but also useful for those who are interested in her professional activities.

Explosion bag with a secret
Character and appearance: attractive, well dressed, catches every man's word, opening her mouth, joyfully thanks for modest gifts, laughs at jokes, smiles all the time. Types of mistresses like this skillfully draw into a relationship with a captivating phrase: “I don’t need anything from you”, endless attention and a cheerful disposition.

Very soon, her true motives become clear, as it turns out that her lover - the best man, which she met in life, and after a couple of weeks, he completely declares her real love, after which the behavior of this eccentric changes beyond recognition. Sobs begin after intimacy, requests to stay, and other minor female provocations, up to the demand to divorce his wife. He threatens to tell his wife everything.

Summary: too much pepper - it is impossible to chew or swallow, much less digest. This is a hit! Run! Urgently and forever! If the threats are carried out, one can spin plausible nonsense about drunken deeds to the wife and swear that it happened only once, and this person is completely crazy, and no one remembers her name.

cutie in love

Character and appearance: slender, beautiful, tastefully dressed. Self-confident and, at the same time, quiet and detached. He can swear, or maybe read poetry.

Life circumstances: shrouded in the darkness of pleasant obscurity.

In sex, this type of mistress is a real feast for a man hungry for diversity! No restrictions! All desires and fantasies are not only fulfilled, but also anticipated.

He patiently listens to complaints about life, in an affectionate and quiet voice, running his hand over men's shoulders, remarking: "You should rest more." Looking at the photo of his wife, he drops in a calm voice: “Good.” Requires nothing, gives useful advice for family purchases.

Summary: the ideal type of mistress and, because of this, a very dangerous option. In comparison with her, the wife does not have any advantages: the wife talks a lot, and all the time demands something, often walks around the house sleepy and in pajamas, and, what’s good, in curlers. With such a mistress to live, but not to grieve, but all thoughts return to the one that, like a holiday, the heart is more and more eager to go there, to her. It's not far from divorce.

Now you know what types of mistresses married men divide women into, and, like a real bitch, if you love very much, you can take anyone away from his wife, and if you yourself become a victim of infidelity, you can draw the right conclusions and not suffer from jealousy in vain. In the end, the ideal lovers are on the verge of extinction, and they may not escape the fate of the wife.

Very often a woman becomes a mistress spontaneously. It is unlikely that there are those who, all their adult lives, have dreamed of just such a role, of a strange man. Most normal women want to have their own family, their own man, who will completely belong only to them.

And so, the woman meets her prince, who turns out to be married. I don’t immediately have the courage to give up my happiness, because it’s so good with him. So she decides to wait - let everything go on as usual, and then life will show.

However, practice shows that life in the end does not show anything, but only passes, and passes by the mistress. And the chances that you can start it again are very small ...

If you are a mistress, we will give you some tips that will help you move from this rank to another, or not get into such a compromising position at all.

So, if you are still caught in the net married man, you should forever forget about what marriage is!

In the event that you still have hopes for an alliance in the distant future, you simply call yourself differently - a friend, a concubine. Because if marriages do occur (and this happens, well, extremely rarely!) then most often they marry precisely a cohabitant, and not a mistress. That is, a man marries a woman who has already proven her mastery of household apart from the rest of her main duties, of course.

If you happen to become a mistress, you should not act contrary to all standards in the style of a vamp. As a rule, a fairly small number of men aspire to this type of women - as well as mountaineering without insurance or hunting a whale with a fishing rod. Therefore, throw aside fishnet stockings, high stilettos, very short skirts, bright lipstick and nail polish. A man will not fall into a frank trap, because by nature he is not as stupid as it seems to women.

You should not be interested in your man about what kind of family life he has!

In any case, you will not hear the truth if it is unpleasant for him. If everything is fine with him there, then it will only bring you harm.

Here you can say even more - if a man starts complaining about his wife to you, then things are bad. He just needs an analyst, not a mistress.

For any holiday, you yourself will be the best gift for him!

In no case do not give him (be it a reason or there is no such reason) cufflinks, ties, colognes, razors, lighters, watches, key chains and other things. Millet is how you teach him to respond to each of his visits not to you, but to a new toy that you have to save for him. So you will become for him only a kind aunt who always stores gifts for him, and if there is no gift, then she can be offended.

You should not expect from him that he will shower you with gifts, especially if in your first meetings you had to pay for yourself in a restaurant, tram, cinema and other places. However, your direct duties include - to teach your man to come to you with gifts, even if it is a small bouquet of snowdrops.

You must very carefully drive the following thought into your man’s head - you would not marry him for any treasures in the world if he were at least three times free because you yourself, first of all, value individual freedom!

At the same time, you must definitely leave aside your personal life for him, because he does not fit into it ...

This will definitely play its role, as an element of mystery, and besides the assurance that you do not need him as a husband, it can work in the opposite direction. And it's only to your advantage. Your man will stay with you exactly as long as it will be beneficial to you.

Do not hide from him what you do not like in his behavior.

Be sure to point out to him that you are not thrilled by his habit of combining watching football with a date. You are annoyed by some of his habits - so tell him about it directly, do not pretend to be a sufferer. And if you really like something, on the contrary, you need to let him know how important it is for you.

If your lover is not the president or secretary of the UN, in no case do not adapt to him, according to his schedule and free time!

All men are able to make their schedule as flexible as they need it to be, so it's great for him to meet you when it's convenient for you. If you do not let him know that he needs it first of all, you run the risk of becoming a call girl, and the difference will only be in price.

Be sure to stay relaxed and yourself!

You don't have to try to fall in love with his predilection for intellectual or auteur cinema if you yourself enjoy watching Mexican TV series. Tell him directly that your mind is not strong enough for such hobbies. So you will get a double benefit - deprive yourself of the pleasure of watching this genre of films and subtly approach your man, who (like all men) is sure from birth that no woman is smart enough for him. He must be smarter because he's just a man.

And most importantly - be sure to plan all your actions in such a way that all the initiative comes supposedly from the man himself.

You must convince him by any means that he is seeking you, and not vice versa. If you do everything right, then any man will be yours.

But there is another nuance here - what do men themselves think about their mistresses?

We already know perfectly well what mistresses think about wives, what wives think about mistresses, but the opinions of men about both are unknown to us.

Men don't do it the same way women do.

Girls can tell their friends everything to the smallest detail, but real men are silent in the circle of friends on two topics - on the topic of wives and on the topic of a mistress.

As a rule, in a company you can only chat about ex girls. They are of the opinion that a man in love should enjoy the moment, and when his eyes are opened, he himself will come and lay everything out.

Usually, the topic of conversation can only be sex - such a boastful topic, during which they share about the quantity and quality of such relationships with this or that girl (mostly ex). At the same time, most often men like to lie about everything - sizes, relationships and everything else.

Anyway, a lover for a normal man is a closed topic, because often he himself cannot determine why he turns her on and what prospect awaits her and himself in the future.

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Our relationship -

Mistress - for many women, this is an enemy that can destroy a family. Moralists accuse them of commercialism and insidiousness, they argue that there is nothing sacred in such women. Lovers have always been and always will be. In this article, you will find out what exactly men think of them, as well as why they divide their lives into two different parts.

Myths that exist about mistresses:

Men are interested persons, their opinion on this topic is quite subjective. This study will help to understand in detail the reasons for male infidelity, why do they get a mistress?

• Myth 1: A mistress provokes an unacceptable relationship

Most men claim that they are the initiators of dates and intimate encounters. Men are "hunters" and if they once decided to set foot on the road of betrayal, then no one will stop them. They will seduce, give gifts, go on unusual dates, just to get "forbidden love."

• Myth 2: a mistress is an immoral woman

Women who are attracted to married men are often called immoral and heartless. However, it is not. Men don't like that public opinion considers them losers, so they use young, beautiful and naive women.

• Myth 3: a lover wants to take away someone else's happiness in order to find her own

AT modern society men run away from family problems to gain freedom and independence on the side. Not all mistresses want to destroy a man's family in order to take him away from his wife. Today, marriage is not as popular as it used to be. Often, a modern mistress needs a man who will love her and will not transfer family problems onto her shoulders.

• Myth 4: A mistress is not loved or respected

Today, various literary works, world cinema and even history glorify the mistress. Indeed, they are surrounded by a certain “aroma” of romance, mystery, love and sweet sin. Today, many men do not even need to spend big money on a mistress. Many women find it easier to earn money on their own than to find a decent and polite man. For this reason, they are not as demanding and mercantile as society considers them to be.

The main causes of male adnolter

Why do lovers deserve this? special attention from the male half, what is their attraction? Men highlight the following points:

1. Permanent holiday. With a mistress, a man can again feel carefree and needed.
2. Feeling of novelty. With a mistress, a man feels something new, which has never been. In a relationship with a mistress, there is no daily routine ritual of family life.
3. Sublime self-love. At home, a man always owes everything to everyone, and with his mistress, he is a real knight and hero.
4. Passionate sex. A man realizes that a forbidden intimate relationship can be too dangerous, it is for this reason that stolen love produces strong adrenaline, which has long been absent from his lawful wife.

So why do men have mistresses? With them, they feel carefree, they do not need to be responsible for upbringing, domestic and other problems associated with their mistress. Also, as a rule, a man does not make plans for the future with her, for him this is a special holiday without scandals and stress. For him, it makes no difference who exactly is his mistress, since he can at any time find himself a new one to satisfy his own needs.

A significant part of the female population completely refutes the possibility of a rendezvous with a married man, considering such relationships to be initially deadly for the soul and their own pride. But there are a considerable number of ladies not only allowing such a development of events, but also purposefully striving for just such a scenario. Throwing hypocrisy and feigned pride, you can understand the very essence of the phenomenon.

Description of the problem

The psychology of a married lover compares favorably with the behavior of an inveterate bachelor or a conscientious family man, therefore it lends itself to a full analysis by a sober-minded lady. Most wives who have experienced the problem of triangular ups and downs from their own experience consider the main reason for their husband's infidelity to be the polygamy inherent in them (popularly referred to as "furious with fat"). In fact, the root of the problem may be hidden behind a screen of psychological disorders.

Problems are the root of betrayal

A common root cause of infidelity is parental problems:

• A child can constantly be a participant in parental abuse, during which the most unpleasant cases of their privacy. The result of such a “happy” childhood will be the inability to perceive family conflicts. In his own family, already an adult man, in moments of acute situations, will subconsciously seek refuge, where he is accepted with a whole basket of bad habits and shortcomings. Skillful mistresses build their own behavior precisely on this foundation - the more demanding the spouse, the more loyal the passion from the outside.
• Parents involved in public labor activity They forget to open their souls to their children. Lack of respect, abrupt changes in the family climate and unexplained actions instill in the fragile children's mind the concept of artificiality. Marital fidelity does not receive clear boundaries, and any difficulties undermine the already unstable world of the family.
• Bad first sexual experience. Many do not allow the option that the psychology of a married lover directly depends on the behavior of the first woman. In the case when a girl openly expressed dissatisfaction, especially in the form of bullying, the man's subconscious is constantly in a state of searching for confirmation of his own status. Mistresses are often more talkative in bed, having analyzed the possible needs of a married boyfriend, clearly build a line of encouragement and, if successful, sing of his male potential.
• The child imbibed the example of a weak father. There are frequent cases when a boy was brought up under the strict control of his mother, who clearly laid the line of matriarchy. An adult man is no longer able to move away from oppressive relationships, so the mistress acts more like a sexual psychologist. Having discussed their own troubles and the futility of married life with beautiful woman, a married lover reinforces all conclusions with rich love joys, which allows him to further humiliate himself in the circle of his own family.

Behavior Model

The psychology of a married lover in relation to his mistress draws a model of behavior gradually. The first experience of a forbidden relationship programs a man to constantly monitor the speech, movements and places of possible deployment of his mistress. The city where the married hero lives with his mistress, day after day turns into a map with minefields. A man tries his best not to fall under the arm of his wife in the eyes of his passion and vice versa. For some guys, this kind of situation gives some positive results: the brain calculates moves in advance, attentiveness increases several times.

Behavior model of a "stray" married partner

There is a more common this moment kind of unfaithful men - "stray" young married lover. His psychology of betrayal is quite simple - his wife confronted him with a fact own pregnancy, and the marriage was already formed around the existing heir or heiress. The strength of such bonds is rather doubtful. A man, backed up to the wall with his tummy, sees in the missus rather an overseer than a faithful soul mate. Therefore, the appearance of a light and cheerful outlet on the side is a completely adequate reaction.

Many girls who have gone sailing on the river "marriage" with precisely such rights often place all responsibility for the appearance of the baby on their spouse. But pressure in the form of barbs or jokes only leads to the desire to gain balance, the girls on the side in this case are a means to gain the missing dominance. The psychology of a married man who has a mistress is distinguished by its stable state. An infringed individual, finally having the opportunity to receive bursts in doses without accompanying moralizing or blackmail, notes an improvement in well-being, a surge of energy and aspirations, as well as an influx of physical strength.

Changes in a married lover

A man strives to match a well-groomed mistress. Wife's favorite pies are swept aside, and baked meat is only welcome. Such is the psychology of a married man, they have a very significant difference from wives - they have their own, they have a separate social circle, unfamiliar affairs and successes. The wife, on the other hand, always tramples under her feet, takes care of her family and children, grumbles about her mother-in-law and colleagues. You can always put pressure on the missus or extort her mistress, but at any moment she can fly away on vital matters. A moment of no influence gives any man a feeling of ardent thirst, attracting more and more.

If both partners are married...

There is also an option when married lovers and mistresses meet. The psychology of these relationships goes beyond a simple craving for novelty. A married lady does not just descend to adultery, she gives a particle own soul lover, taking her away from her family.

Why does a married lady have a married partner?

For women, the bonds of marriage are not empty words, even in the case of a fictitious union (by calculation or contract). Several factors can make a girl decide on a forbidden relationship:

• Dissatisfaction with one's own libido. Often, apparently well-off married couples hide a deep conflict of sexual temperaments. If a woman has a more active position and aspirations for a regular sexual life and does not receive a response from her husband, thoughts about an additional place of intimate unloading gradually mature in her psyche.
• The husband's sexual coercion also leads to a search for a more suitable partner. In a situation where the spouse pushes forward his own hidden fantasies with an onslaught, not caring about the emotional calmness of his missus, he runs into a wall not only of misunderstanding, but already of hysterical jitters. The best solution for most women is the presence of a married lover. After all, the existence of a spouse completely frees from any obligations to the boyfriend.
• Lack of quality attention from the faithful. Lacking an emotional dialogue with a spouse, women most often become isolated in their own complexes and grievances, attention from a strange man feeds their ego.

What are relationships based on?

The psychology of a married lover in relation to a married mistress is built on quite tangible supports. The main one is the complete adaptation of the new passion to his own fate. A married lady, in fact, is a universal cocktail that gives pleasure and confidence in male capabilities, and at the same time does not show a destructive passion for ringing. The most pleasant bonus is the complete harmony in terms of matching in time. A free passion over time will demand more attention to itself, and a married one approaches the issue more deliberately, calculating all possible options.

The complete absence of trivial promises and vows qualitatively saturates the relationship of married lovers. The psychology of both parties is such that wild delight and the desire to suppress a partner are absent.

Why choose a married woman as a mistress?

Due to beneficial harmony, the connection with a married woman is complemented and purely external factors. Such a lady completely rejects exits to crowded places, does not require pretentious parties, frisky races or spa resorts. The list of expenses of a married man is qualitatively reduced and easily fits in, especially if the legal spouse scrupulously controls him. Also, men are disposed by the looseness of married mistresses.

An animal interest in the forbidden ripens on both sides, giving an intimate connection a "delicious" spiciness. The psychology of a married lover is built on all the same classical laws - when your own missus constantly talks about age (both in public matters and in bed), the ego requires the satisfaction of the most ambiguous desires.

Ideal for both partners

In some situations, for single mothers, a married lover becomes a lifeline. with years of loneliness puts forward a whole list positive aspects of this phenomenon. Lawful husbands often disappoint with their tyranny in relation to their spouse or child, so a married lover will not take educational initiatives towards the child, and will not toughen the atmosphere in the house. Rare visits also look tempting - a single mother does not often manage to set aside an hour or two for herself, so such a partner will not issue ultimatums.

To help in material terms, women believe, it is a married lover who can help. The psychology of a man who has known the complexities of everyday life is such that he is easier to compromise, you have to ask him less often, a casually thrown phrase or a sigh causes such a partner a reflex developed in life together with his wife.

Married lover: psychology, divorce

Over the past three decades, a different trend of such relations has been widespread. Many girls dream of finding a well-equipped man; most often a married lover suits them as an admirer. They plan to conquer such a partner, to conquer him. As a result, he will file for divorce from his missus. Thus, young and excessively ambitious ladies want to get not just a win, but a universal jackpot.

The appearance of a young or more experienced woman in the life of a spouse in most cases indicates stagnation in relation to the couple. Psychologists advise to understand the core of the problem before embarking on drastic measures and sanctions. Family life is not just a laborious and painstaking business, but also an ubiquitous one. Any man needs frequent bursts of seething passions that would allow him to balance the emotional world with the outside.