Staring into the eyes is a sign of strong feelings

It is believed that the eyes do not lie: no matter how much a person wants to hide his true intentions, one look into the eyes is enough to feel something is wrong or even guess everything at once. Thus, a man’s gaze into a woman’s eyes during silence is most often a sign of sympathy. On the other hand, understanding the “language of views” at an elementary level can already make life easier for anyone and in any field of activity. Incredibly, visual contact is as valuable a tool of non-verbal communication as body language and facial expressions.

At first glance, it may seem that the “language of views” is limited in possibilities, but in practice it can be much more expressive than words.

The look may:

• instill trust - the secret weapon of businessmen, actors, diplomats, negotiators and politicians;
• inspire desire - the image of a femme fatale always begins with a stunning look;
• subordinate - the boss’s imperious gaze is stronger than any words, every subordinate knows about this;
• provoke - a clash of views during a meeting often becomes the starting point for a quarrel: “What are you staring at?”

A long gaze at your interlocutor has a special power of influence; it is difficult not to notice and impossible to ignore. If a person looks at you intently and does not look away, he needs something, and he is not afraid to show it. But how to interpret gaze into the eyes is almost always an open question. A man's gaze on a woman will be very different from a man's gaze on a man. In addition, in different cultures, such a look can mean different things: from affection to overt aggression.

What does a man's gaze mean?

On an instinctive level, a long look into the eyes from a potential opponent is perceived as a challenge and a manifestation of aggression. In the animal world, such a look always precedes a fight. Parents often teach children not to look into the eyes of strangers and stray dogs, because an animal that does not know what to expect from a child may perceive the gaze as hostile.

If two strangers or unfamiliar men start a staring game, you can be sure that it will end in a quarrel.

A man's gaze into a man's eyes can mean:

1. Call or answer a call. It is the eyes that are the first to communicate the desire to quarrel: a heavy, arrogant and hostile look can frighten an opponent or provoke him into mutual hostility.
2. Evaluation. A gaze can be studying or testing. The difference is that a person is studied inconspicuously, but tested deliberately and directly, including through conflict. The way your opponent reacts to your gaze can tell you a lot about his character.

A girl's gaze at a guy is considered to be a sign of interest. This is partly true, because in order to peer into something or someone, you need at least some kind of interest, but what kind of interest is still a big question. This look should not be interpreted as sympathy unless any accompanying signs indicate this.

Communication with the girl you like is a very delicate process on which a lot depends. Any guy will act cautiously, at least at first, and long staring and caution are almost antonyms. It is more common for a man to look closely and for a long time into the eyes of women who like him, including women with whom he has close relationships. For everyday boors, all women fit into this category at once, which is why insolent looks are their distinctive feature.

Looking closely into the eyes without blinking can be a sign of very strong feelings that are difficult to hide and control. Here the man has no time for caution, his gaze is almost screaming, it contains everything that cannot be contained in words and gestures.

What does a woman's gaze mean?

A woman tends to stare intently at a man she likes, so for a man such a look is a good sign and a call to action. Even more often, such looks are found among women in love who simply adore looking into the eyes of their significant other. According to women, this is a special sacrament, communication without words, spiritual intimacy, etc. A woman will definitely not stare at everyone, because it is modesty that adorns the weaker sex, and intrusive glances do not go well with modesty.

It is also not customary to look closely at other women, unless this is an obvious conflict situation, or there is an objective need for such behavior. A long examining and comparing look is possible, but not eye to eye. The emotions from the gaze of another woman are approximately the same as from the gaze of a man on a man:

• anxiety and feeling of danger;
• feeling of discomfort;
• irritation.

Above we looked at unconditional situations, that is, situations that occur in random circumstances, without any strict context. But in everyday life, we don’t come across the gaze of a random person very often. Looking into the eyes is much more common among familiar people who are related to each other.

• The boss's view. If a boss looks intently at a subordinate, this, of course, is not rudeness, not an influx of feelings or a manifestation of aggression. With their glance, managers make it clear that they are dissatisfied. Often a long glance from a boss, accompanied by a pause, makes a subordinate worry, blush and make excuses. However, in order to have a successful career, it is better to overcome the fear of the boss’s gaze.
• The view of the listener. It also does not mean anything bad or extraordinary and only indicates attentiveness and interest in the conversation, an attempt to better understand the essence of what was said, concentration.
• The speaker's gaze. Aimed at persuasion and giving weight to words. Teaching stage speech at GITIS or at any other acting school for adults involves working with the gaze as a tool of general expressiveness, its development and training. A look can disarm, evoke feelings of pity, compassion and tenderness - remember the famous cat from Shrek.

A person who has a good understanding of psychology, the meaning of views and knows how to apply them in practice can achieve great success in communication. You can learn more about the gaze method in psychological training for personal growth or in courses for successful negotiations. Here are some tips on how to look at your interlocutor to achieve the desired effect.

1. Don't overexpose. The duration of the gaze matters: the longer the gaze, the stronger the emotion it expresses. If you do not want to stun your interlocutor, do not look into his eyes for too long, 2-4 seconds will be enough, after which it is better to look away.
2. Look with your eyes wide open. This is the look of an honest person who does not lie and does not hide anything. Its opposite is a squinted gaze and a wandering “running” gaze.
3. Use facial expressions. There is nothing easier than creating visibility with the help of facial expressions: wrinkled forehead and an already concentrated employee, slightly closed his eyes - a languid lover, knitted his eyebrows - an eternally dissatisfied boss, etc. The perception of the interlocutor’s gaze can also be “corrected” facially, especially with the help smiles and eyebrow positions.